Growing up, the elders in my community would rarely commit to the success of anything before its completion, and even then, they were careful not to let the slightest hint of arrogance interfere with their assumptions. They would only speculate about their ability to be victorious over any challenge or task by making the statement “If … More Kick Ambiguity to the Curb!
The first time I heard the phrase, “Complete in Christ”, I didn’t quite understand it, but I was desperate for the truth it holds. I had made the decision at a young age to become a follower of Christ, but like many people who have been abused, my brokenness was deep. Understanding the reality of … More Feeling Invisible
Love is a decision that we make every day. It is not always an easy choice because we live in a world where the majority of people will turn their backs on love. When I was a small child, I believed that everyone loved God and was a good person, but like the Apostle Paul, … More Know the Truth
The world is filled with chaos, and we would all do ourselves a huge favor by cultivating a relationship with someone who doesn’t add to it. For some of us, this is a tall order, because we have an underlying belief that draws chaos into our lives. This isn’t God’s Will for us, and it … More Let It Go
The air was thick with tension in the court building downtown, and I felt it before I got off the elevator. For some, I could tell that this incredibly nervous energy was what they were used to. Their lives were always on the line in that way, and they were seemingly immune to the waiting … More An Energy Rub
No one needs to tell me what it feels like to have a big hole in your soul. I have some personal experience with this, and I can’t think of anything more miserable. I was very young when I started to feel it, and as I got older, of course the hole seemed to get … More The Biggest Cause of Emptiness
When a serious relationship ends, it can cause some of the most devastating feelings of sadness. We have no choice but to confront this molasses of heartache and wade through it the best way we can. Struggling with thoughts of facing life alone deepens the pain. You remember what it was like before you were … More Hard to Breathe
An acquaintance broke up with a man she had been seeing for five years. She thought the relationship would end with a proposal. Even though he told her many times that he wasn’t the marrying type and didn’t see a family in his future, she kept hoping. Sometimes, we trip this way. We stroll on … More When ‘Not Enough’ Is Too Much
My cousin, Malaysia, is a New Yorker to her core. Born and bred there, she visited her southern relatives only during the summer months, on school vacations. It was on one of her southbound excursions that she introduced Double Dutch Jump Rope to her young cousins. My sisters and I were giddy as all get … More Trying to Jump Double Dutch with Chains
In any relationship, whether it’s your own emotional state or the person you’re involved with, questioning whether love or obsession is at the root is extremely important. In God’s Word, He gives us very clear information on how love behaves—what it does, and what it produces. One of the biggest mistakes we make when it … More Is It Love or Obsession?