Chasing Tears or Chasing God

Isaiah 41:10 (NLT)
“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”

With tears streaming down her face, Barbara Jane angrily slammed the door to her boyfriend’s car after she got out of it. He slowly pulled off, wondering if Barbara Jane was going to be as vengeful as she had been in the past when they argued. Often, she’d shut down for weeks and wouldn’t speak to him. Barbara Jane was unaware that her grandmother had watched the whole thing from her living room window. When her marriage fell apart after only a year, Barbara Jane moved in with her Grandma Ida. She also quickly moved on to another relationship. In her adult life, she had never been without a man in her life. Even in high school and college, she always had a boyfriend and had never spent time being on her own.

Barbara Jane’s mother had gotten her addiction under control in recent years, but the relationship between them had been estranged since Barbara Jane was a teenager. Her father tried his best to be supportive, but her grandmother was the constant in her life. Ida had watched her granddaughter get her heart broken many times, but she was noticing an anger and bitterness in Barbara Jane that she hadn’t seen before. One evening, after she had prepared Barbara Jane’s favorite meal, she told her that she wanted them to have a talk.

Some form of education or training is required to get a diploma, a degree, a driver’s license, and a job. We recognize on a very basic level that in life, we need to educate ourselves to advance, but when it comes to our spiritual walk with Christ and relationships with others, many of us drop the ball. We think we know enough to navigate these areas alone. That isn’t true. We desperately need God’s wisdom in order to truly advance in life. Proverbs 4:7(KJV) says, “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” He tells us here that wisdom is primary in life, and God supplies the wisdom we need by giving us His Word.

God’s Word is an infallible road map for navigating life on earth, and it contains wisdom and guidance regarding every aspect of our existence. It is our guide to life. 2Timothy 3:16(NLT) tells us, “All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.” Without the useful teaching of what is true, we make errors and wrong choices, and these errors and wrong choices often result in heartbreak.

Jesus Christ commanded us, as God’s sons and daughters, to humble ourselves under God. This means that we must have the humility to acknowledge and accept that we can’t navigate successfully through life without knowing God and knowing the wisdom that comes from His Word. We desperately need His help.

He tells us in Jeremiah 29:11(NLT), “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” God is the Leader and we’re the followers. He’s the One with the plan, and the greatest gift we can give to ourselves is to follow His plan. This is going to require us to read and study His Word so that we have an understanding of what God says is right or wrong for our lives. You might say, “I’ve tried reading the Bible, but I don’t understand it.” This is one of the many ways that the Holy Spirit helps us. Jesus Christ said in John 16:13(NLT), “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future.” God’s Spirit, the Holy Spirit, lives inside every born-again believer. When we pray for understanding before we read God’s Word, the Spirit will help us comprehend the scriptures.

If we pay attention to the Spirit’s guidance and leadership, he will also let us know when our decisions and choices are in agreement with God’s plan for us. So, before we decide that a man is the one for our lives, we need to hear it from God. Without His greenlight, we shouldn’t move ahead. If we do, we could waste precious time and resources, and end up with a situation that causes us to go backward instead of forward. None of us should want to do this.

Barbara Jane anticipated that one of her grandmother’s serious talks was coming when she spotted her fav, a newly baked caramel cake, on the counter. At the end of grandmother’s sage advice, she asked her, “Which will make you happier, chasing tears or chasing God?” We chase tears when we neglect or refuse to seek the Lord first. Many women of God look for a man to make them complete, and when we do this, we will always be disappointed. Only God can make us complete, and He has done this through our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. We must trust this with our whole hearts, and make God our first priority, not what we can or can’t receive from another human being.

Our blessed Redeemer commands us in Matthew 6:33(NKJV), “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” Seeking God and the wisdom of His Word must be our first priority and practice. It can never be number two, but again, always number one. Don’t make relationships a project of trial and error. Trust God to help you live your best life. Humble yourself under His great power. Spend time in prayer and study His Word so that you will grow in your relationship with Him. Then you’ll learn to recognize His voice, hear His instructions, and remain on the path of His wisdom and blessings for your life. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

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