When a serious relationship ends, it can cause some of the most devastating feelings of sadness. We have no choice but to confront this molasses of heartache and wade through it the best way we can. Struggling with thoughts of facing life alone deepens the pain. You remember what it was like before you were booed-up, and you don’t want to go down that lonely road again. It’s painful to totally invest your hopes for the future in a person that no longer loves you the way you need to be loved. And on top of everything else you’ve gone through, you’re confused, because you gave it your all, and can’t understand why it wasn’t enough to build the relationship you’ve always wanted.
Dealing with emotional issues is challenging, because from a very young age, a lot of us are taught to hide our pain, as if it’s something to be ashamed of. There are so many individuals that are suffering in silence because they don’t believe anyone will understand what they’re going through. For some, the hurt cuts so deeply that it’s difficult to trust there’s anyone who CAN help or offer comfort. The one thing we can’t afford to do is crawl under that rock that seems to be calling our names. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you’ve experienced in the past, when something shakes you to your core, it presents you with an opportunity to see something within that you haven’t seen before.
Spirit isn’t just what we have, it’s who we are. We are spiritual beings having an earthly experience. Genesis 2:7(NLT) tells us, “Then the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground. He breathed the breath of life into the man’s nostrils, and the man became a living person.” We experience the earth in an earth-suit that was made of dust. When our life transitions to the next, and our existence on earth is over, the earth-suit that we’ve been blessed to inhabit for a season will return to that of which it was made. It will return to dust, but 1Peter 1:23 tells us the spirit that has been born-again of incorruptible seed is eternal.
Our pain reminds us of the mortal side, the part of us that is only here on earth temporarily. When we’re cut deep, it’s also a reminder that we need to pay attention to our spirits. The born-again experience through our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, is the recreation of our human-spirit. Before we accepted Christ, our human-spirit was dead to God, but when we accept Jesus Christ as Lord, our human-spirit comes alive to God. Because of what Christ accomplished on the cross, 2Corinthians 5:17(NKJV) says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” In other words, our human-spirits become new creations, and the Holy Spirit comes to live inside them. 1Corinthians 6:19-20(NLT) cosigns this and tells us, “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”
The Holy Spirit lives inside of our human-spirits. Our spirit and the Holy Spirit are not the same, and it’s so important for us to make this distinction. Romans 8:16(NLT) tells us, “For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children.” From the deepest place within, the Holy Spirit reminds us of who we are. Your spirit is the ‘YOU’ you will always be. It is your authentic self, and contrary to how you might feel at any given time, your spirit is always magnificent!
When we lose someone, and the pain of loss makes us feel as though it’s hard to breathe, it’s sometimes an indication that for too long we relied on oxygen from the wrong source. Real love, the kind that comes from Heavenly Father, never stops loving. It isn’t deterred because someone lacked the capability to return it. God breathed our spirits into our bodies, and we became a living person. No one can take what God has given us, UNLESS we allow it. We are our Father’s children. We are love because He is Love. This should forever be the joy of our rejoicing.
Psalm 30:5(NKJV) tells us, “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” Give yourself a small window to feel sad, and for that brief time, feel it as much and as deeply as you can. IT IS a temporary state, one that does not come close to the joy that is before you. Grieve well for the loss of what you thought could have been. Then, turn to Jesus, your Source of light, love, and joy. You gave pain its due, Give God His. Practice patience and faith as you let the Holy Spirit heal you from within. Open your heart to God, and breathe in the joy that only His love can give. ■
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“Hard to Breathe” written by Fran, edited by PMB for Overcomingdomesticviolenceorg.wordpress.com. Copyright ©2020. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord!
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